No fun pictures. No sweet stories.
I have to logically try and understand that dishonesty and maniuplation become survival techniques when you are an "older" child growing up in an orphanage. That does not make it any easier to accept these behaviors when they are not things we embrace in our family.
As time moves on and we settle in as a family of 4, more behaviors surface and more things get revealed. A recent trend in manipulation has led to another mountain to climb. Boundaries are being pushed and limits tested.
If you refer back to the posting on November 20, 2011 entitled "Things are not always as they seem...", Kennedy told us that her birthdate was not accurate and that she was actually 12. VERY long story short, that was not the truth. Well...the DOB she was assigned is not accurate, but the chronological age was basically correct. Though we will never know the exact information...she is indeed 14...or at least much closer to 14 than any other age. I wish I could explain it, but I can not.
For now, she will remain in the grade we moved her down to as a result of that "information" in November. It is truly where she needs to be academically at this point to fill in her many gaps in learning. If she catches up eventually and can place out of a grade or two, great. If not, she will be a "mature" high school senior when she gets to that point.
I am weary. I need your prayers and support. Thanks.
3 comments:
We will keep you in our prayers!!
I just wanted to encourage you that your love and patience will heal her wounds in time. I am praying for all of you, know that Jesus will bring you each through this!
A TV program "Tales of a Red Thread" somehow led me to your blog. I have lived in Fiji among East Indian people for many years. I was married to an East Indian woman and her young brothers were like my children. Lying and deceit were a part of their lives. Finally, I learned to accept that, that it was a part of their families culture and try as I might, I was not going to succeed at changing that. Acceptance of the inevitable has given me peace. My prayers are with you
shanti, shanti, shanti
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